If our colleagues feel that we are good listeners, and genuinely open to suggestions, they are more likely to be the same way with us.  In addition, constructive criticism is more likely to be welcome when it is actually invited. We must learn to open ourselves, and we must treat each other with care and respect. Many who advocate being able to speak very directly (because they feel they know so much) tend to not react so well when their words or actions are questioned.

It all takes time. It is also important to understand that some colleagues feel reluctant to bother others or ask for help. It is OK to ask someone if they would like your help. In the early stages of a working relationship both asking for permission, and giving it can be very important. Those new to the work often feel quite vulnerable and frequently worry about saying or doing the wrong thing. Making mistakes is inevitable. Fortunately, we are all here to learn, and this is not a system which places much value on right answers. When we open ourselves, it is with the hope and expectation that others will approach us with care. Our work is an intimate process.

Anyone who can not be trusted to treat another with care should not be doing this work.

Balance and diplomacy are always essential,   and ideally the openness to input from others, and an ongoing, free-flowing exchange becomes part of the fabric of a good working relationship.

Though this state of being is expected within Reggio circles, it cannot be mandated. It must be grown.  The relationships need to be cultivated and regularly cared for.

Ideally, every member of the group should always feel safe enough to ask questions, and share not only ideas, but also their missteps, and uncertainties about what to do next, or how to deal with  particularly challenging problems.

Good schools are environments which nurture growth. No one should ever feel that they are facing difficulties on their own or that making mistakes is something to be feared. Each person needs to understand that hitting dead ends, making mistakes,  and encountering the unexpected can and will happen. These occur in spite of our best efforts to plan and try out possibilities with our colleagues.